What happens next?

Sometimes other people don’t know how to talk about their feelings so it can seem like they have got over the death of someone when really they are missing them a lot. Adults sometimes think it is best for you if no one talks about the person who has died, but it is important that you have someone you can talk to.

Some people think going to a funeral will upset children and young people but you might want the chance to say good bye. Talk to your family about what you want.

You might want to remember times when you were together with the person who has died, having fun, talking together, or even the things that annoyed you about them. It can be helpful to find someone who also knew the person who has died to talk about them together and remember them. You could make a memory box where you keep things that remind you of the person you have lost, or of a special time you had together. Or you could write about them or draw a picture of a time that you want to remember.

Friends are very important; they can never replace the person who has died but they can fill some of the gaps. Some people worry that they might bore their friends because they want to talk about the same thing over and over again. It may be helpful to find just one trusted person who has the patience to listen.