Hello i have just found this website it is brillant! I can finally really express how i feel about being a young carer.My name is Katrina { edited by ycnet team } and I am 15. I care for my 21 year old brother Paul, who has Autism and sepected ADHD and ODC. I am the youngest of six children. My two older sisters have moved out so at the moment its my mum and dad, brothers David 18, Robert 17, Paul 21 and me. My dad does help look after Paul sometimes but leaves most for me to do, my mum (who cant work because she is ment to be Paul's full ime carer) well i dont think she acpects his illness and just wants to think he is any other lad, but he is not. This leads to my parents arguing. I am left to look after Paul, Robert gets anger and hurts him and David is too busy with his friends all the time. I have started going to consuelling recently and it has helped a little but I still dont feel like opening up as much as I want to.

It just makes me so angry and I really worry about Paul's future, Il ove hiom to bits, but it feels like he is not getting the right  care

Thank You for reading this

 

Katrina x

Gosh that must be really hard 4 u, talkin about it will help u to releave some of ur feelings- so keep tlking to ur counciler. Have u ever tryed talking to ur mum or dad about how u feel??

Wb Kiwi

Aww im sorry to hear that were all here for u talk to!

hiya

ummm i have kind of but they dont really talk me serouisly or understand, my concullior (can't spell that! opps) has pesauded me too but it will turn into a full blown agruement if i say what i really really felt! :(

thanks for your concern hunni

x x

Hey katrina,

How are you? That sounds like alot of pressure on you! and its not fair *stamps foot* Is there anyone you could ask about getting paul better care? maybe a teacher or the yc.net team from here might be able to help you ..? Dont worry about opening up in counselling, I have it too and it is very helpful, it took me half a year to start trusting mine.. there is no rush. They are there for you and should go at YOUR pace. So just take your time Take care and remember  everyone here is always there if you need somone to talk to.

Take care  xxx 

Hello, you sent me a very lovely post months ago and I hvae only just got round to replying. Thank you for you advice. Consuelling is getting better now, I she her more regulary and I talk in more detail so thats a little eaiser. As for Paul, in agreement with the social services at my school they told my parents that I should not be caring for my brother any more, leaving everything to my dad (who currently has an illness himself), although its less pressure i cant help but think he its being look after very well. Theres still agurement and Paul has manic outbursts. No at school understands as they have drifted apart from me. I dont really have any friends atall.

 KittenKez x x

hiya im beth! im 16 i look after my mum! wow u av a lot going on in your life! if u wanna talk any time tho, u know were we all are!